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In many relationships there is an accounting – what you do for me vs what I do for you. Whenever there is a surplus on one side, there is often a deficit on the other. The play of relationship will then be to get these sides into equilibrium. Along the way, there may be unhappiness, arguments, stone-walling, or even worse, a state of complete indifference. How did we get to this?
In every relationship there is also a Trust Account. At the beginning of most passionate relationships the Trust Account will be full. But over time – sometimes a short time and sometimes a very long time – this account will become eroded and the sign of this erosion will hit you one day as either complete lack of passion with your partner, or worse, hostility. This is where one or both partners tell themselves they are only there for the children, and if there are no children then it is doubtful whether this relationship will last, and if it does it will be a pale existence; a pallid friendship. It will certainly not be the passionate and fulfilling adventure which was its promise at the beginning. The Trust Account has become so depleted that there is little hope of saving the relationship, much less building it back up to its former glory. And this can be the moment when the man becomes aware that the relationship is in real trouble and also the moment when he will try to recover and repair it, but by now it is too late.